The Recovering Gamblers Podcast: LIVE

Episode 22

July 13, 2021

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First Segment - SMART Recovery Handbook - Chapter 3 - Part 2

TOOL: Change-Plan worksheet

 

Now that you have identified what you want for your future and what you need to do to get there, you need a plan. In the Change-Plan worksheet, identify steps you can take toward your goal (envisioned future) and consider people who can help you get there. Create strategies to help you progress and identify signs that show you're making progress. If a strategy doesn't work. don't give up; use it as an opportunity to try something different.

 

You also may use this tool as a problem-solving worksheet because it can help you break large problems into smaller steps to focus your efforts so that you don't get overwhelmed.

 

Example Change-Plan worksheet

 

Changes I want to make:

Abstain within a week

I want to be abstinent long-term

I want to avoid pubs

I want to eat better

I want to sleep better

How important is it to me to make these changes? (1-10 scale)

10

How confident am I that I can make these changes? (1-10 scale)

6

The most important reasons I want to make these changes are:

My health is failing

I want my kids back

I want to keep my job

I want to have a good relationship with my ex-spouse

How other people can help me:

Person/Kind of help

Friend

Mom

Doctor

Call me when I’m not feeling well

Share her recipes for healthy meals

Monitor my overall health

I will know my plan is working when:

I stay sober

I can sleep

I’m eating better

I make it to work on time

I stay away from bars

I see my doctors regularly

Some things that could interfere with my plan are:

Seeing a drinking friend and being pressured to go for drinks

Having a drink

Isolating myself; staying inside and not exercising or eating properly

Not going to SMART meetings

My Change-Plan worksheet

Changes I want to make:

How important is it to me to make these changes? (1-10 scale)

 

How confident am I that I can make these changes? (1-10 scale)

 

The most important reasons I want to make these changes are:

How other people can help me:

Person/Kind of help

I will know my plan is working when:

Some things that could interfere with my plan are:

Summary

 

So far, you've done some wonderful - and difficult - planning. Congratulations. You identified your values, what you want your future to look like, what's important to you, and how your current behaviour undermines your goals.

 

You made a plan to create your future and honour your values, and you identified your support system - the people who can help you along your journey. You also identified, possibly for the first time, the long- and short-term costs and benefits of your addictive behaviour.

 

These are powerful insights. You may find yourself referring to these pages to help you stay motivated, especially as you move into Point 2 of the SMART Recovery Programme, Coping with Urges.

 

Second Segment - Topic of the Week

 

  1. In recovery, what makes you happy? How do you replace the high you got from gambling? Is it okay to live life at a 7 (out of 10)? 

 

Third Segment - 30 Ways to Energize Your “Present Self”

MAKE TIME FOR EMPTINESS

First, observe yourself

Be with yourself as you are, but without haste, without impatience

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In our everyday lives, do any of us have time to think about nothing?

I imagine most people would say, “I don’t have a moment to spare for that.”

We’re pressed for time, pressured by work and everything else in our lives. Modern life is busier than ever. All day, every day, we try our best just to do what has to get done.

If we immerse ourselves in this kind of routine, unconsciously but inevitably we lose sight of our true selves, and of true happiness.

Any given day, a mere ten minutes is all you need. Try making time for emptiness, for not thinking about anything.

Just try clearing your mind, and not being caught up in the things around you.

Various thoughts will float up in your mind, but try to send them away, one by one. When you do so, you will begin to notice the present moment, the subtle shifts in nature that are keeping you alive. When you are not distracted by other things, your pure and honest self can be revealed.

Making time for not thinking about anything - that is the first step towards creating a simple life.

  1. What are your thoughts on this? Have you tried to do this before? Have you had success? Will you try it this week? When we come into recovery, one of the big issues people have is they have so much free time that filling the void is a struggle. Have you found that life has now filled that void and are you back feeling like your life feels busier than ever before?

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